Lot's of Wedding Talk

So there comes a time in a girl's life when the age old question comes around. Will you marry me? Don't freak, this question has not come to my attention yet, but it is becoming intoxicating due to the fact that everyone around me seems to be getting married or talking about getting married. My family and I will have long drawn out conversations about all of my friends getting married and then that leads into hypothetical conversations about my wedding. A wedding that does not even exist! Don't get me wrong, it is kind of fun to think about it and discuss it. A lot of drama can surround a wedding, especially when you come from a huge Mexican/Polish family.

For example, having a small intimate beach wedding for 40 people can't happen. That would mean some of my aunts, uncles, 1st cousins, and grandparents wouldn't make the cut. If you are only on the friend's list, you can consider yourself not invited! I won't lie, your invitation did not get lost in the mail, you weren't invited.

Of course, I would never have a small little wedding because I love all of my family and friends so much that I couldn't disinclude any of you. Well, obviously I would have to make the hard decisions somehow. I'll have to embark on a crusade of explaining to my family as to why my college roommate deserves to be invited versus mi tia, who I've only seen 4 times in my life. It'll be an epic feat if I can accomplish this, but it's all part of wedding planning. Again, I can't emphasize this enough, this only applies if you come from a large ethnic family!

So once you are done with battling over guest lists, there comes the daunting task of actually affording the wedding. It's hard to believe that you might be one credit card bill away from being in the poor house all in honor of saying I love you, I won't cheat on you, I won't cheat on you when your sick, I won't cheat on you when your poor, and it's 2009 who obeys their husband anymore?! Don't get me wrong, I do think that you should spend money on your wedding, it is suppose to be one of the happiest days of your life and if you do it right, you will only do it once. I just feel that the wedding industry capitalizes on that simple sentiment way too much. There is obviously nothing that can be done about it, and no I'm not going to start an activist groups to represent the disadvantaged brides of America. A wedding is a luxury.

I could continue onto a political rant about same sex marriages and all of that jazz. However, I will not. Speaking of politics, why not throw in religion. Why can catholics only have half masses if they're fiance is not catholic? That does not make me any less catholic, this makes me kind of sad. So what, he can't have communion, who cares? I hope this only varies from church to church, god forbid, my poor polish grandma will think i'm not married if that's the case. Everytime she talks about her grandchildren getting married, it always includes a blessed catholic church. I am convinced that she thinks there is no other way to become man and wife. I don't particularly mind because I do want to be married in the catholic church.

I know the day will come when I will get married. Trust me, I'm very happy being a spectator at this point! I can't help but be happy for all of my friends who are brave enough to take the plunge. Don't worry ladies, your day will come and it will not be wrong at any age or time in your life as long as your with the person you love! If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone other than your mommy to love you back?!